The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Giving

One of the things I have been struggling with as I try to think about someone that I can give to each day is my tendency to judge the potential recipient’s worthiness or unworthiness of my charity. (Nice of me, huh?)

This occurred to me late one day when I had not yet done my daily gift.  I was driving along the road with a crumpled dollar in my hand looking for the  (I thought ubiquitous, but now seemingly absent) transient holding a cardboard sign requesting cash.

At a popular corner where I expected to find my one, I was instead approached by a person requesting money for a charity for which I had seen a not-so-flattering expose. Frustrated, I held on to my dollar.

Okay maybe not that guyThere are several homeless people that frequent a convenience store near my house, so I thought I might give out a dollar over there.

I thought, “Well, they are just going to spend it on alcohol.”

I fretted over this.

Then I remembered that during my twenties, a lot of people gave me money, time, and help that I squandered. Did I deserve that charity? Or do I think those gifts to me were a waste?

Though they may have seemed to be, a residual effect was my realization that, even though I had proven to be irresponsible and wasteful, people were still amazingly kind and generous with me. Years later, that is something I still think about. (More often in the context of my wondering, “How in the fuck did they not just beat my head in?!”)

So, I’ve decided that as part of my gift giving exercise, I don’t have to figure out whether or not each person is deserving or undeserving of my gift.

I don’t mean to belittle this, but in some ways it reminds me of my “I’m really honest because I‘m really lazy” post. It is actually a relief to know that I don’t have to figure it out. Each day for 29 days, I just have to do one thing that is kind – a much easier task for a lazy girl like me.

Maybe I’ll write a book, The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Happiness. Ha ha…


Countup: Two weeks of no drinking!

Countdown: 142 days until I move into my RV!

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